ELIZABETH ODUWAIYE LIFESKILLS COUNSEL

  If on the sea, use the life jacket.  If working in a polluted environment (smoke infested) or industrial waste, use the nose mask.  When tired, rest...  Please value your life enough to save it.

  I remember very well when a minister mounted the altar with the intention of talking about church members' appearance. She was so judgemental. She said something similar to this: "Some of you, you come to church, you paint your face. It is not good. It is not acceptable before God"....  So, she decided to back up her claim with a Biblical reference. Immediately she opened and started reading the scripture, I saw the confusion on her face. She was firstly confused, then she made me confuse because I started to wonder why she was confused 😂 She was perplexed. She read Luke 6:37 "Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned...". From her expression, it was clear that that was not the part of the Bible she intended to read. But I believe God wanted her to read out loud her own scolding and reprimand.  And it was immediate. 😂 Another instance was when another woman condemned the dressing of a teenager who wore trousers. The te...

  I just witnessed something now and my heart broke. A man got a bad news call while driving. The caller told him that his younger brother died. As a result the man driving had an accident.  I have some things to say about this. A moral we can all derive one lesson or two from. This message is to those people who are fond of calling people to relay bad news to them INSENSITIVELY. . .  First and foremost, if you don't have a choice but to give bad news through the phone to someone, ask questions before you do. Questions like "Where are you?" or/and "Are you driving?" or/and "Is someone with you?". The reason why you need to ask all or some of these questions is simple. 👉Your caution can save a life. . .  Don't break a bad news to a person without considering the state of their mind, health or circumstance they are in. Be sensitive. Be empathic. Be intentional. It doesn't take anything to go the extra mile in your relations with others. Please e...

  ********************* There is a fact we need to always take cognisance of: WORDS are POWERFUL! WORDS CAN EITHER MAKE OR BREAK A PERSON OR A RELATIONSHIP. Words can move a person to tears or propel laughter. Someone once said, “Words are sometimes more destructive than nuclear bomb”. Well, it's true, so you need to be careful how you speak to people or address a person. Some hurtful words can make the recipient feel so bad, feel mentally battered or even begin to have suicidal thoughts. A thought that just came to my mind concerning the effect of words is this: Comedians make people laugh, what do they use? WORDS! The suicide bombers are manipulated to carry out their dastardly act through what? WORDS! They are usually not forced to become suicide bombers, all their manipulators use are WORDS. YOU SEE THE POWER OF WORDS? God made the world through words. That means IF THE RIGHT WORDS CAN CREATE, THE WRONG WORDS CAN ALSO DESTROY WHAT HAS BEEN CREATED. Be mindful of what you say....

I was shocked some days ago when I saw one complete write up, I was even more amazed to realize who the author is. The reason is because credit was never given to the 'ACTUAL AUTHOR' even though some portions of this write up have been copied and pasted 101 times. Yeah, most of us are guilty of posting people's write up without giving credit to them or at least writing the word "COPIED" after posting. This is not nice . Courtesy demands that when we copy a write up, we write the word "COPIED" after posting and before sending. Another way to go about it is to write out the name of the author, but if you don't know the author then use the word "COPIED". Reason being that so many have taken the credit for others' sweat. The most annoying part is people commend you and say "Wow! You are a fantastic writer" and still you don't let them know you are not the writer of the piece? STOP TAKING THE CREDIT FOR ANOTHER MAN'S JOB. T...

Of course I appreciate my parents for giving me sound education. They trained me through from the basis up to university. Kudos to them! Nevertheless, being educated is not a yardstick for me to see myself as better than the semi-educated. If you have been feeling that way, COME DOWN from your high horse! There are people who did not even roundup the 1st trimester of Secondary school who speak and write better than some university graduates. I AM NOT ANTI-EDUCATION o! But if you must get educated, get it the right way, not through shady means; EARN your certificate! And when you do, don't use 'big big grammar' to intimidate the semi-educated. Speak in words they can understand (after all,  that is the essence of communication). If you insist on grammar, wait till you are among your colleagues. Education is good, but let's get it the right way, and when we do, we need not intimidate those who are not as privileged. THE TRUTH BE TOLD.

  LACK OF LOVE Lack of love has caused a whole lot of wicked happenings. Lack of true; pure love has made people commit too many atrocities. These days it gets worse. Can you imagine a man 'slaughtered' like a cow. Imagine some set of people  coming together to form a group to waste lives (kill) because of senseless or selfish reasons. Is it not alarming that a woman can be tortured with pepper poured into her private part? No matter what, why must the torture be taken to that extreme?! These and many more are the things that lack of love has caused and is still causing. With love, there will be no jealousy, no hatred, no deceit, no killing, no strive, no chaos. People need to love one another more.The solution to the problems we are encountering is LOVE; IN POLITICS AND OTHER AREAS, WE NEED LOVE!