ELIZABETH ODUWAIYE LIFESKILLS COUNSEL

  But I'm making a mistake that needs to be corrected ASAP!  Loving children is not bad. But where do we draw the line and toughen up?  Loving children is something that comes easily & naturally to me. It's like a calling, in fact, A GIFT.  And this has always beeen obvious because even before I became a mother, I had so many children in my corner that I took care of (little ones and teenagers). I was so loving towards these children that the parents that appreciate what I do used to hand over their children to me (they literally 'dash' me their children 😂). Those who felt threatened by the love I showed their children began to react negatively. They feel like I was trying to take their place in their children's life.  It was that serious!  I have started having my own children for more than 14 years now but the problem is that, most times, I am 'too' loving that I don't know where to draw the line between pampering and exerting discipline I am seei...

Laju Iren gave a quote which according to her is the most impactful quote she has ever heard. It says "E better make you reach where you dey go 9 o'clock, than make you reach hospital 8 o'clock because you dey rush". That is deep. And it was from a bus conductor.  Hmmn, truly, wisdom has no status!  Life's lesson can be gotten from anyone, anywhere and anything. All you need to do is open your mind at all times. Be ready to learn and it will be easy for you to see people, things, or circumstances to derive life lessons from. Don't look down on anyone. They may be the teacher that will teach you a particular course you need to pass a test of life.  I have said it before, that the person who taught me how to sweep was a teenage boy (about the same age with me at the time).  He saw how I swept. He laughed at me, then, told me how to do it right.  I didn't like that he made fun of me but I listened.  My strategy was that, I ignored the laugh, and learnt the le...

We all have been given the free will to choose a lot of things in life.  Free will to choose the people we acquaint ourselves with, the kind of houses we live in, we choose the sort of clothes we wear and so on. We can freely choose all of those.  Nevertheless, the most important part of our lives was decided before we were born.  This is because there are some things, event and people in life we cannot choose.  For example, you don't choose the kind of body you are born with, you don't choose the day you are born. So also, you can not choose your parents, siblings and all your extended family.  Parents cannot choose their children, children can't choose their parents.  Family members do not choose relatives. You may attend a gathering and you get introduced to unfamiliar people and be told, "This is your cousin" or "Meet your uncle" and so on.  We all just came into this world and find all that is listed above is the way they are.  The intriguing...

Rapidly AI is taking over the photo studio industry.  What is AI? And what does it do when it comes to photography?  AI is an acronym for Artificial Intelligence. It is a branch of computer science that uses computational models to perform tasks that previously required human intelligence. To successfully use AI to generate pictures, all that is needed is the facial features of the person in the portrait you desire to recreate.  After you provide 'a face', AI goes over and above your expectations.  It gives you a beautiful background, a posture, add or remove objects, create entirely new images,  give new clothes, and even a new smile. AI does so much that you will be shocked when you see the outcome it gives you. The interesting current trend now is that people hardly visit the photo studio again.  I know people who take snap shots for their birthdays every year. They prefer AI pictures now than going to the studio.  After all said and done, the truth...

 "Please LORD, bless me, even if not for my sake, bless me for the sake of the people I desire to help financially in Jesus' name. Amen. That is part of my prayer point.  Several times, because of the nature of what I do on Life Skills Counsel , I receive calls or messages of people soliciting for financial help.  I give if I have, if I don't, I politely turn them down.  I was thinking to myself how much more help I would have been able to render to people financially if I had more than I do right now.   The reason why I pray the above prayer is because I desire to do more. But I need to have more to do more.  Lessons to Learn  The ministry of help is not child's play. If you want to help other people you need to be capable to do so.  The capacity you desire to help others has to be the capacity you have also reached and exceeded. You can't give what you don't have. The reason why I prayed that prayer is NOT because I lack the finances to hel...

It's been said severally that "Men Don't Cry".  The appalling thing about this statement which has been induced and inculcated into most men is that it is mostly done right from when they were boys.  This is quite saddening.  Let's be practical here.  If a boy is happy, is he free to laugh? Oh, yes he is.  No one tells him to stop laughing because he is a boy.  So why is he reprimanded for crying when he feels pain or hurt, just because he is a boy?  Are humans not allowed to express emotions? Or Is the boy not a human being? I am tired of parents telling their sons not to cry.   Some time back, I witnessed a scenerio between a mother and her son.  The little boy who is about 11 years old felt hurt by a friend.  He was explaining what happened, and in the process, he started to cry.  Immediately he started crying, his mother shouted at him and said, "Keep quiet there, and stop crying like a girl. Are you not a boy?!"  I fe...