I LOVE CHILDREN

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But I'm making a mistake that needs to be corrected ASAP! 


Loving children is not bad. But where do we draw the line and toughen up? 


Loving children is something that comes easily & naturally to me. It's like a calling, in fact, A GIFT. 


And this has always beeen obvious because even before I became a mother, I had so many children in my corner that I took care of (little ones and teenagers).


I was so loving towards these children that the parents that appreciate what I do used to hand over their children to me (they literally 'dash' me their children 😂).


Those who felt threatened by the love I showed their children began to react negatively. They feel like I was trying to take their place in their children's life. 

It was that serious! 


I have started having my own children for more than 14 years now but the problem is that, most times, I am 'too' loving that I don't know where to draw the line between pampering and exerting discipline


I am seeing clearly how I am not stern, especially after instructions are given, yet not followed. This, of course will not yield the right result in the long run. 


I realize that I am so knitted to these young ones (biological or not). If you hurt them, I feel hurt. I just want to love and help them, but I need to balance that love with discipline. 


GOD had warned me at least two times about this. Very stern warning.

HE has also used people who care to point it out to me.


I am working on myself. I have to. 

We are all work-in-progress after all. 


I realize that children are ready to be self-destructive if you let them. 


As a parent, guardian or teacher, you have to exert disciplinary actions when needed. 

It's for the children's good, it's for their glorious future. 


Written by Elizabeth Oduwaiye

Life Coach/Youth Counsellor




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