RELATIONSHIPS HAVE BOUNDARIES: RESPECT THEM OR LOOSE THEM.

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 In life, some people come into your life for a reason. Don't use them for what they are not meant for, or else you will loose them forever.


Some come as a beacon of light to help you find your way. If you use them as a stool instead, you will shorten the time they are suppose to be in your life and you will eventually loose them.

And 

Loosing them will affect your life journey. It will affect your destiny. 


When people enter into your life, first things first. 

đź“ŚKnow who they are. 

đź“ŚTwo, know the reason why they are there. 

đź“ŚThree, define your relationship with them. 

đź“ŚFour, stay within the definition of that relationship. Don't cross beyond the boundary. 

For example, "What is this person in my life for?" 

"What is the duration of their stay (forever or a time)?" and 

"How can I maximize (not exploit) their stay in my life?" 


In ALL relationships, there are boundaries. But you can only define the boundaries if the relationship has been defined.


The value you place on a relationship determines whether you will define it and respect it enough never to cross the boundaries or not. 


So many people don't understand boundaries, so they don't respect boundaries. They just misbehave, especially if they are at a more advantaged position in the relationship.


ANOTHER ANOMALY IS THAT SOME PEOPLE HAVE NO REGARD FOR RELATIONSHIPS. IF IT IS LOST THEY DON'T CARE. 

Take note at this juncture that THIS 'CARE' IS NOT DETERMINED BY WHAT YOU DO AFTER LOOSING THE RELATIONSHIP, BUT WHAT YOU DO TO MAKE SURE THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT LOST. 


In any kind of relationship you operate in, you need emotional intelligence to define what the relationship is all about and stay within the confines of that definition. This is very important. 


Anyone who is unable to do this is emotionally unintelligent. 


The truth is that it will not be easy for you to sustain the best relationships in your life when you lack emotional intelligence. 


Acquisition of emotional intelligence has become paramount in our world today. But it is saddening that it is lacking.


Dear, the conclusion of the whole matter is this, GOD ALWAYS BRING PEOPLE INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON (or for reasons), know what that reason is (or those reasons are) and DON'T ABUSE IT.


Written by

Elizabeth Oduwaiye

--Touching the world POSITIVELY; one person at a time. 

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