LOVING YOUR SELF IS AN ART

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Yes, LOVING YOUR SELF IS AN ART,
it doesn't happen automatically. IT HAS TO BE LEARNT!


There are people who do NOT love themselves, and because of this, they CANNOT genuinely love others.


I AM NOT PROMOTING SELF-CENTEREDNESS. Get my point.


The truth is: "You can't expect someone to love you when they don't even love themselves".


NO ONE CAN GIVE WHAT THEY DON'T HAVE. If you don't have the love for self in you, you can't love others.


People have hurt me; caused me pain over the years.

Some MAY still cause me pain in future. This is not because I am bad or have done them any wrong. But because they do not love themselves, they will find it difficult to love me. In fact, they are not capable of loving me, or ANY OTHER PERSON for that matter. 


An author once wrote: Some people hurt others to make themselves feel better.


The best way you can teach someone to love you is to help them to love themselves first.


When I came to understand this, it helped me handle situations better.

I AM STILL STANDING TALL TODAY BECAUSE OF THIS UNDERSTANDING.



So, when I say I love you💕 (even if you don't deserve my love), believe me, BECAUSE I HAVE LEARNT TO LOVE MYSELF FIRST.

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