I LEARNT FROM THIS, YOU COULD TOO

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The Following Conversation Took Place Between I and one of My daughters

DAUGHTER: Mummy, you like singing

MUMMY: Ehn ehn?

DAUGHTER: Yes, anything we say, you turn it into a song.

MUMMY: (Laughing) I don't even realize I do this.

DAUGHTER: You do it a lot mummy, you like singing.

Here are the lessons I learned from the above conversation:

1. 👉It is possible to have a habit you are not aware of.

Not necessarily singing like mine; it may be dancing on impulse, it may be shouting, or even anger.

2. 👉On the journey of self-discovery, you need other people's observations as well. You don't know it all, neither do you see it all.

3. 👉LISTEN! When someone is trying to tell you about yourself (your habit or behaviour), LISTEN! This may be instrumental in your journey to the next level.

4. 👉Children are very observant; (most times more than adults are) so be careful what you do when they are around.

5. 👉Unlike in my own case in this scenario, you may have a bad habit that you've not noticed, if you are a good listener or you are accommodating, those who observe will tell you about it so that you can make the necessary changes. By extension, you become a BETTER PERSON.

6. 👉Life gives you an opportunity to learn something new daily. All you need is to be perceptive and discerning enough to learn the lesson(s) life is teaching you.

7. 👉YOU CAN LEARN FROM ANYONE AND ANYTHING. My take? Be humble enough to do so.

What's your opinion?

Written by

© Elizabeth Oduwaiye Martins

Life Skills/Youth Counsellor

 

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