THE CONVERSATION THAT ENSUED BETWEEN I AND MY 5 YEARS OLD CHILD

 The following conversation ensued between I and my 5 years old child when I was done bathing her one early morning. 

When I asked her to come and take her bath that morning, she said she wanted to have her bath much later when the other kids would have theirs. But she is the youngest and I wanted to bathe her myself, so I INSISTED. 

And serious cry started 😭. 😂. 

When I was done bathing her, she said:

"Why was I even crying when you told me to come and bath?" 

Then, I responded: "So, even you didn't know why you were crying".

Child: (smiling) "Bathing is good. It makes me fresh!" 

Mother: (I just shook my head and laughed) 

From the conversation above I was able to deduce that:

 

Children sometimes cry or throw tantrums for NO GOOD REASON.

 Can you imagine she asked me why she was crying? 😂 

Maybe her mind just told her: 'Cry' and she decided to cry without asking: "Why should I cry?" 😜😂😂😂.

Another lesson I learnt is that when these children protest (even the teens & adults) when we want to help them, it doesn't mean they don't need your help. THEY JUST DON'T REALIZE THAT THEY NEED HELP AT THAT TIME.

Note also, that AS LONG AS YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING: training your child the right way, instilling discipline when necessary, doing what is needed (PARENTING): EVEN IF THE CHILD GRUMBLES or complain. STILL GO AHEAD and do what you must, because THAT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.

Sometimes, children (even adults) kick against good things; it may be an advice, other times, ideas, or even suggestions that are good for them. 

When they do, IT IS TIME TO BE FIRM AS A PARENT. 

For CHILDREN : Obey your parents even if you don't understand why you should (as long as you are NOT being asked to do the abominable).

There is an African proverb that says that "What an elder sees when seated may not be visible to a child, even if he/she climbs an Iroko tree'.

Listen to your parents, and always remember that they mean well for you.

As PARENTS, explaining to the children sometimes (especially teen & adult) why they need to do what you have told them to do also helps. Yes, it does. Because perspectives differ.

Written by

Elizabeth Oduwaiye Martins 

Founder: Life Skills Counsel 

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