ELIZABETH ODUWAIYE LIFESKILLS COUNSEL

  Traits An Emotionally Intelligent Person Will Never Exhibit  * They never shy away from vulnerability * They never take things too personal * They don't hold grudge * They don't transfer aggression * They never give up on themselves * They don't maintain unrealistic expectations * They don't ignore the emotion of others * They don't blame others * They don't act based on impulses * They don't dwell on past mistakes  * They won't say yes unless they really want to * They don't make unverified assumptions * They don't force their opinion on others * They don't waste their time with just anybody * They don't forget little details * They are quite open minded * They have instinct for supporting others, including strangers * They won't break a promise * They will not judge others casually * They stay calm under pressure  * They resolve conflict effectively  * They are not disrespectful, they treat co-worker with empathy Image Credit: Gor

 Emotional intelligence is very powerful and essential, yet undervalued in our society and among people. The importance of emotional intelligence in all interpersonal relationships cannot be over emphasized. Let's take a look at different works of life and the importance of emotional intelligence to thrive in them.  🔑 1. Workplace: A lack of emotional intelligent skills result in workplace conflicts and misunderstanding. This dynamic often stems from an inability to recognize or comprehend emotions. It is one of the most sought-after interpersonal skill in the work place. Note: A popularly cited survey from 2011 showed that 71% of employers valued emotional intelligence in an employee over IQ. In fact, 59% of employers would not hire someone if they had a high IQ but low EI.   🔑 2. Education: The importance of Emotional intelligence (EI) in education is seen in the ability to identify, name and manage emotions. This provides the learner with foundation for problem-solving, health

 The stickers (or do I call them picture messages?) attached to this write up were gotten from candy. They look like messages gotten from more 'serious' sources but no. They are a part of candy wrapper. The truth is that I was amazed when I saw them too.  There was this particular day I wouldn't say was one of my best days. I had many issues I was worrying about. I was bothered. It felt as if I had reached the crossroads. In essence, I wasn't my usual bubbly self. I needed encouragement. I needed succour, I needed to be strengthened because I was weak. I was tired! So tired of the whole situation.  As I was deep in thought, my children informed me that they wanted to go get some candies. I said they could. They did and when they came back, and were done unwrapping the candies, I saw these papers in this picture in their hands. It will interest you to know that, immediately I saw these papers, my mood improved significantly. I got the message. I believe everything worked

  This is a WAKE UP CALL for everyone. The picture attached to this write up is the picture of a girl I will like to refer to as El (real name withheld). I told her guardian to help me take the picture during one of my counselling (therapy) session with El. Before El's guardian took the picture I already told her that I will use it on our page. But I told the guardian I don't want El's face to be seen, so she took the picture from El's back view. This was done intentionally to protect El interest & privacy. At the time of this counselling/therapy session done, El was 12 years old. El is a girl enrolled in a boarding school by her mum who resides outside the country. In the said boarding school, she has a school mother and her school mother has a group of friends. I will like to refer to them as a sect or a cult. This is because during my finding I realize that they always target young girls who have parents abroad and they extort them. So, El became a target

It's okay to take care of your physical outlook. But what of your mind?  What of your inner self?  It is what you are INSIDE that MATTERS MORE than your physical appearance⚡  I have been called names like 'small but mighty'. It is not because I am small like that oh 😁 (I am average height). But people call me that because they see my works: measure it with my physique and WONDER. Who do people say you are? Not the 'gbeboruns' oh, those that have objectively discovered the real you. Those that matter...who do they say you? Reference: Mark 8:27-29 Written by Elizabeth Oduwaiye --Touching the world POSITIVELY; one person at a time.

 It makes me smile when people try to guess what my course of study was in the higher institution and they say 'English'.  The truth is that the course I studied in the university is not even in any way related to English language.  It doesn't even come close.  As an inquisitive person, I made my findings and got to know that the reason why people think I studied English language is because of my impeccable spoken and written English.  It is worthy of note that at some point during my active teaching years, my boss had to compel me to become an English teacher.  He obviously knew that was not my area of specialization but he was so sure I would do well as a primary school English teacher.  So he took that step of faith 😁 Most people don't know this but I will reveal it to you today. The secret to my mannerisms, comportment, admirable command of the English Language is that I READ A LOT!  Oh! I never got tired of reading. I still read but not as much as I used to.  Resp

  If on the sea, use the life jacket.  If working in a polluted environment (smoke infested) or industrial waste, use the nose mask.  When tired, rest...  Please value your life enough to save it.

 One of the lessons I have learnt in life is that "It's not all gifts that should be accepted". Some gifts are given to lure you into trouble. Some are traps to make you fall or demote you.  Some people are sent of the enemy to cut short your glorious destiny. And what do they use? GIFTS! THE MOTIVE behind every gift given is what DETERMINES WHETHER such GIFT IS WORTHY OF ACCEPTANCE OR NOT.  Some have been lured into witchcraft because of a gift. Some have been deceived into becoming addicted to one vice or the other through a gift. Others have their lives monitored or controlled because of a gift they received which they were never suppose to. LEARN TO REFUSE SOME GIFTS.  BE DISCERNING.  Understanding human psychology can be a guide. Divine wisdom can be instrumental at this juncture. Many have fallen into ditches because of the kind of gifts or presents they have accepted. Have you ever heard the saying that "Na wetin person sabi chop na him dey kill person"?

  I remember very well when a minister mounted the altar with the intention of talking about church members' appearance. She was so judgemental. She said something similar to this: "Some of you, you come to church, you paint your face. It is not good. It is not acceptable before God"....  So, she decided to back up her claim with a Biblical reference. Immediately she opened and started reading the scripture, I saw the confusion on her face. She was firstly confused, then she made me confuse because I started to wonder why she was confused 😂 She was perplexed. She read Luke 6:37 "Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned...". From her expression, it was clear that that was not the part of the Bible she intended to read. But I believe God wanted her to read out loud her own scolding and reprimand.  And it was immediate. 😂 Another instance was when another woman condemned the dressing of a teenager who wore trousers. The te